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I am organising a baby shower at the moment and am looking for some things to make it really special. I was just going to make some food and get baby shower cakes. However, I think that it might be really good to make it a bit more special by making a bit more of an effort. There are going to be quite a few guests and also I think it will be a great opportunity to spoil my daughter, who the party is for. She will be very busy with the new baby and the baby will take the attention now and so it will be nice for her to have a nice party.

I think that I will get some lovely baby shower decorations to make the house look special and that should please her as she always likes things to look really nice. I hope that her friends will like it as well. I thought that it would make things look really special if I got some pretty baby shower favors to brighten up the table and it will mean that everyone will have a lovely little thing to take home with them as a memento of the party.

How do i discipline him at first i told him “we dont use words like this as its rude” and left it as i thought making a fuss out of it would be exciting for him. He carried on so i smacked his legs and put him on the bottom step of the stairs. Yet he still says those words. What next!! Earlier he said goodbye to his nan and grandad and was waving and he said f off word while waving

My son’s 2 1/2, and recently heard a man in Sainsburys arguing with the cashier and started repeating the language the man said. From the second i reacted to him saying it, my son did it more. Eventually, i ignored it, and would find my little lad looking at me whilst saying it waiting for a reaction. Now, i ignore him, and ive not heard him say it since.
I certainly wouldn’t smack him, whats that teaching him?

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Repetition and show and tell is the key. Do not use the bad words around him, and do not laugh when he says the bad words. Get down on his level so you are face to face having a conversation and Tell him “No -we dont use words like this as its rude and will make nan and grandad sad”. Let’s try it together, and practice together waving and saying ‘I love you nan and grandad”. If he continues, tell him it is a 2nd warning, and if he repeats after the warning he will get a time out. Put him in a time out corner or area where you can watch him. He may be too young to understand what he is saying, and the reactions may have been people thought it was cute or laughed, so he repeats it. He might not be able to separate in his mind, the waving and the words. When he does it correctly, be sure to give him lots of praise - good job, good boy.

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First, stop bringing him around people who are saying these words, and stop saying them yourself if you are. Also, smacking your son is only going to teach him that not only swearing, but also hitting is ok

The past couple of days, he just doesn’t want to sleep! He’ll take a cat nap for like 10 min, but then he’s right back up again… Is this a sign to start feeding him cereal? My first child slept so well for me! So this is such a major change! Open to any suggestions… and also how do I get him to sleep in his own bed, he sleeps “ok” when he’s in my arms?!

I have noticed with my daughter that she tends to sleep worse when she is about to have a growth spurt, or sick. Since he is probably not sick, his body might just be growing and changing resulting in him being a lighter sleeper sometimes. I have found the best thing to do is be prepared to be stuck with a baby in my arms for a while. I would rather be stuck holding mine for 30-40 minutes and have her get her sleep, than deal with a really really cranky baby come bedtime.
Most of the time if held until asleep, and then moved to the crib we were good to go. I have even left my shirt in the bed with her when she was grabbing it. I would rather go get another shirt and have her think she is with mommy and sleep in her crib than have her wake back up.
Also you might want to look at nap times. Adjusting them by half an hour, might be all you need to do. We had one heck of a time getting back on schedule after getting sick a month or so ago, but by nto letting her take 10 minute cat naps all morning we got a decent nap in by lunch time. Worse comes to worse, you will have a power napper on your hands. Then you have to plan things around the 10-15 minute napper.

Were you a good parent accused of something you didn’t do? Did your child’s teacher see a bruise on your kid that he got from falling off his bike, and suddenly you were turned in? When you were questioned did you request a lawyer? What about when they came to your home, did you let them in without a search warrant?

I think some people need to mind there own flipping business unless they see a parent beating the kid with a metal bat or something like that.

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i actually have with both children… my children have a light birthmark (daughter on back and son on leg) and they literally look like finger bruises…. I had to get a letter from the pediatrician to verify that they were indeed birth marks and NOT bruises… then CPS made me take them to the hospital for them to be checked out…. Needless to say they felt very stupid after all was said and done. I now have a paper in my daughter’s file at school from the dr saying that the marks on her back are birth marks

Daycare NOT included how much should I guestimate to spend monthly on my newborn daughter?

Her father and I are disputing child support. He wants to pay half of the costs, I say 20% of his income. What would be more helpful to me? The 1/2 of the cost to raise her or 20% of his income - which was 50k last year.

File a court document stating the decision. If he is not with you. But the 20% will be more benefitial to you now. However please consider he could leave that job for another lower paying one. My attorney calculated what the 17% (NY state) would be of his 50k salary and that became the number that was paid every month. Not a percentage of… Make sure you put in a provision to revise every 3 or 5 years.

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$100-150 for diapers
Formula if not breest fedding $200
wipes and poweder $50
Then there clothes and bedding and towels, bottels and other things that youll need to replace along the way that wont be every month things…also medical bills to figure in. If it were me I would take the 20% but he should be helping with daycare too.

sorry I forgot to include this but the roof above your head and power and water are also some things that are part of caring for a child. I understand you would need this anyway but you need a two bedroom place not a one and other things like that. So its not just daipers and food and clothes.

When you are pregnant with your first child and throughout their childhood you will likely want to buy them the best of the best. Of course, this attitude will change significantly when you have your second, third, and more children, but for your first it is quite normal and even expected. You will want to buy the Britax car seats, simply because they are more expensive and supposedly the best. Sure, they are good car seats, but there are many other brands that are also excellent. The same goes for Robeez. These little leather slipper shoes are adorable. They cost about $20 per pair, but you will think they are so cute that your baby will need a pair to match every outfit. This will quickly become too expensive, but you will still probably overspend.

Then, as your little one becomes a toddler you will want to buy a Kettler Tricycle. This is just the way it goes when you become a mom. You will always want the best for your little one and it will take time for you to realize that the best is not always the most expensive and many times all that is really needed is your love and affection.

I agree that you should *usually* not give in to your child. What my doctor told me to do when my daughter used to hold her breath (she passed out more than 10 times, including in a store once) was to lay her down so that she would be safe and then leave the room. It is one of the hardest things I have ever done, but it does work.

A 15-month-old is not aware of the fact that she is going to pass out. She *is* aware that her behavior is scaring you, so leaving the room means she is not getting the attention that she wanted and it helps eliminate the behavior.

The most difficult thing to understand is that nothing bad will actually happen to your child if she’s lying down at the time (if she isn’t, she could fall and get hurt). I still find it hard to see a child holding his or her breath, despite knowing this.

Arts and crafts are always fun. I used to work at a daycare with children of all ages, and no matter how old they were, they loved doing crafts. The girls could make bubble paper: all you need is dish soap, food coloring, straws, tin cake pans, and plain paper. Fill the pans about 1″ deep with water, add a few drops of soap and whatever colors you wish to use, then mix it up. Give each of the girls a straw and let them blow bubbles in the pan of colored water. Next, all they have to do is lay the paper on the bubbles. Once they have created the patterns and color combinations they like, just set them aside to dry. (Be sure to write their name on it so each girl gets the one she made.)

They could also make jewelry out of pasta. They can just paint the pasta (any pasta with a hole in it; like macaroni) then thread yarn through them when they dry.

You could have them make carmel popcorn balls or marshmellow squares to enjoy while they watch a movie, like Chicken Little.

They could also play games like simon says or mother may I. And of course, if they like stories, they could sit in a circle and one girl would start a story then “pass” it on to the next girl, and so on until all of the girls have contributed to creating an enitire story. (The daycare kids loved that one!)

Be creative and hang in there! You’ll do just fine!

If you’re only nursing every 3 hours, that is probably the problem. The average baby needs to nurse at least 10-12 times in 24 hours–and that’s *before* you want to increase your milk supply. If you’re not nursing that often, it is very likely that you will never have enough milk.

So the first thing to do is to nurse more often. If it’s been 2 hours since the *beginning* of the previous feeding, pick up the baby and nurse, even if you have to wake her/him. Try offering a *little* less formula (about 1/2 to 1 ounce less per feeding) and nursing more often like this for the next 3-4 days. If baby is still having the same number of wet and dirty diapers as previously, offer a little less again (and continue to nurse every 2 hours). Keep going this way, and you will probably be able to eliminate the formula entirely at some point (but there is no way to know just when that will happen).

At the same time, call a local La Leche League Leader. She will be able to give you ongoing help and support. All this help is *free* (although offer to make a donation to the organization if you can). See sources section below to find a Leader near you. Keep in mind that LLL Leaders are all volunteers working from their own homes while raising their own kids, so if you don’t get through, try another Leader or call back later.

You do *not* need to “drink a lot of water”. It won’t help, and one study showed that forcing liquids actually *decreased* milk production. Drink if you are thirsty.

Do *not* use “mother’s milk tea” or any other herbal blend that is intended to increase your milk supply. If you need help from a medication, you can use fenugreek or a prescription medication (see below). Herbal blends are all based on fenugreek anyway, but the extra herbs can cause various problems (side effects and/or allergies). In addition, most of them contain fennel–an herb that can increase the milk supply for some mothers, but actually decreases it for others. It is risky and could cause more problems.

Do not pump if you can nurse. No pump is as effective as a nursing baby. Before you pick up the pump, nurse; the only reason to pump is if baby refuses to nurse, in which case it’s better than nothing. But if you do pump, use the most effective pump you can. The best is a hospital-grade rental pump (preferably one that pumps both breasts simultaneously), then a battery-powered pump (even if used on wall current); manual pumps are the least effective type of all. Never use a pump made by Gerber, First Years, or Evenflo, or any pump that has a rubber bulb to operate it. They could do damage to the breast that may make end your breastfeeding career–at least for this baby.

If you want to try a “galactagogue” (something that increases milk production), the only herb with any scientific evidence of its effectiveness is fenugreek. Take 1 capsule 3 times a day for 3-4 days, then increase to 2 capsules 3 times a day for a few more days. Keep increasing this way until you are taking an effective dose *for you* (typically 2-4 capsules per dose); you will know that you are taking enough when your sweat and urine smell like maple syrup. Keep taking that amount until you have enough milk, then stop gradually (the same as starting). Fenugreek is not recommended for mothers with asthma or diabetes. And if either you or baby has an allergic reaction (very rare), stop taking it.

If you prefer a prescription galactagogue, there are 2 to choose from. Most women use metoclopramide (Reglan) because it is more readily available in the US, although domperidone (Motilium) has fewer side effects. Metoclopramide can cause stomach upsets and depression, although neither one is common (if you have a history of depression, you probably don’t want to use it, though). Neither drug has been shown to have any side effects in the baby.

There were a lot of children in my family, so we had to finance everything ourselves. I was working full time at age 15 just to buy clothing and shampoo. It was tough, but I don’t regret it, it gave me character. **

I think that things are definately different for children now… 100 years ago, 11 year old boys were running a farm — or at least doing a good share of the work. Now, I am happy if I can get my 11 year old son to pick up his socks and lower the toilet seat. Our expectaions for children have changed, lowered. As a result, they are living up to what we expect. **

I think one of the most important things we need to teach children is personal responsibilty. Children need to grow into adults that accept responsibilty for their actions. If they are always saying, “I am this way because of my circumstance” or “I am not this way because I wasn’t ever given a fair shot” they will never succeed. They need to learn that they are in charge of their own destiny. THey decide how their life will turn out. Events and circumstances may steer them one way or the other, but ultimately, they decide what and who they are going to become. If they can grasp this, then they can go on to provide for their families, emotionally and financially. They need to learn that success comes from how we treat others, not how much money we make. **